The rules of internet dating for women
In theory, it should be fairly simple; dude with the brightest plumage, women with the best child-bearing hips, 10 minutes of squishy noises and then a whole lot of controversy as to whether primates pairbond monogamously or polygamously. Well, if you want quality guys, you’re going to put the effort into the profile.
But because we had to go and evolve and develop complex brains and societies, we had to go and make it all complicated and shit; what used to be instinctual has become confusing, and we end up overanalyzing it…if a woman is interested in a guy, shouldn’t she be willing to make the first move – after all, it physical at first, or can there be an emotional connection as well? Your online dating profile is your verbal equivalent of a peacock’s lustrous plumage When you’re writing your profile, think about the sort of guy you’re looking for; while guys in general are wider ranging in the types they’re willing to date (or bang), there will be plenty who have a narrower focus. As I’ve advised guys before, if you want a type, you have to be able to show yourself as someone who that type would be attracted to; think if it as proving that you know how to speak their language.
You want a photo of you from the waist up at a medium length and little in the background to distract from you. I’m not saying you have to be a buttoned up prude, but in the world of online dating, a hint and a tease of sexuality will serve you in far better stead in the long run then laying it all out there.
You should face the camera as directly as possible; if you know your “good side”, then feel free to angle yourself in that direction, but you thing you have to offer. You want to find quality guys, not setting yourself up as an anonymous deposit in random dude’s spank banks.
I’ll be the first to admit: I write most of my articles with a male audience in mind. well, I’m a guy, and a lot of my advice is naturally going to be coming from a male perspective and male experiences. As a general rule, women are more socialized towards being willing to ask for help when trying to improve their chances with guys.
Men, on the other hand, are told that they exist in binary states; either they’re good with women or they aren’t.
Guys you should talk to will give you some indication that they’ve actually your profile; they’ll bring up something you say either to show a commonality or else as a springboard for conversation.
Whether you feel your nose is too large, your breasts or too small or you’re just a whole lot of woman, a dishonest photograph will only hurt you in the long run – eventually you’re going to want to meet some of these guys in person and they’re going to see the truth.The one exception to this is your primary profile photo, the one that will be displayed in the search results and on your profile page.This is going to be the first impression, and you want it to be a good one.Men are visual creatures; we base a lot of our initial judgements on a woman’s looks long before we get to know her as a person.There’s no point in trying to get around this, so you may as well learn how to use this to your advantage.